I have forgotten how hard it is to have a fussy 2 year old - I admit it. My older children, have passed that stage, and are now in the stages where they are perfectly able to express themselves and their needs...this weekend, my two year old was over tired, fussy and achy, and this weekend was extremely hard - on both of us. I spend a lot of time holding him and meeting his need for extra cuddles...but you know what? That does not mean that it's was not hard...towards the end of the night, I swear I was close to tears.
He needed me all. Day. Long. and he wouldn't nap. Add to this my sky high laundry pile, food cooking and prep. , dishes needing tending, house a mess...while the other ones fought for my attention....I had a LONG weekend, and you know what, I had to put myself in peace mode, because I knew that it was the only thing to help me through.
Today I will share with you what I did to keep from loosing it:
The first thing that I did was remind myself over and over again, that he was not trying to give me a hard time, he was having one. It's easy to take tantrums and moods personally when we are tired or cranky and nothing is making baby happy - but reminding myself that it's not about me, but about what my baby needed at the moment helped me remain aware of his needs, as well as stay calm when he needed me most.
Two was to eat and nourish myself. If I don't eat, I can end up cranky...mommy needs to eat. :D 'nuff said.
Three, I left the lesser important things for another time...yes I had the biggest pile of laundry ever - like ever - but I left it for the next day, because I am only human and can only do so much in a day...sometimes things get lift for the next day, and that's ok.
Four, I talk less throughout the day. I think more about the way that I am feeling, and why. I take these days as days of introspection: this way, I am less reactive and more observant...on purpose. I've learned the hard way that it's very easy to take my feelings out on my kids when I'm cranky or moody...
the final thing was play. I played with him, and the other kids, and I took time to watch them play together. Often when I feel as if the day is taking a crazy turn, I literally, turn off "to do" mode - if I can avoid it - and I go into hyper attention mode. Where I play or pay attention to them (what they are doing, how they are playing and the way that they interact with each other, etc.). I do this because it allows me to reconnect with them on a more personal level...if I stop trying to do, and focus on what they are doing, I enjoy them in the present moment - having fun and laughing at silly things...I might even laugh a little, inbetween wanting to cry :)