In last week's blog post: 3 Reasons for Why Peaceful Parenting May Not Be Working for You I talk about how the hardest work to do, is the emotional and spiritual part of parenting - and I stand firm in that belief. Because you see, I can go through physical motions all day long, but the part that matters and makes a difference is the internal stuff. The hard stuff. The stuff that takes emotional work and introspection. It takes self awareness and responsibility. Looking at all of the feelings and emotions that are present within my home, and figuring out a way to actually make the necessary changes to affect the happenings in a positive way - and that is hard.
There is no way around it - parenting is tough work. There are countless factors and things getting in the way the mix, that make us question ourselves and what we are doing constantly. We question every single thing that we do, what we say, how we say it, and ultimately make ourselves batty at times, wondering if we're doing things the right way...and all we want to do is the right things for our kids.
From the outside looking in, those who get a glimpse of me and my interactions with my kids (mostly my tribe of awesome rockin' mammas in my group Soul Centered Mamma Tribe) get to see and hear my kiddos in the background and see the awesomeness that is them, but here's the thing, that even though it seems like if everything is always fluffy white clouds, and pink animated hearts in my home, the truth is that I and we, have moments that can become difficult too. I have 5 children under 11 - this includes tweens, twins and a 3 year old. We have moments of cranky and exhaustion and of too much for the day - it happens - but what I have learned over the years is that no matter what is going on in my house, it is me who sets the tone for what unfolds, and the way that things are perceived.
You see, being a gentle/connected/peaceful parent does not mean that I do not feel the things that everyone else feels, or have rough moments, but I've learned how to use the rough moments to help me move forward. I feel all of the same things that we all feel when we are frustrated or triggered, but I've learned how to discipline myself to react in ways that help me understand what's going on, and in ways that create the behaviors that I want vs., the reactions that come on autopilot (the ones that were handed down from our parents or caregivers). It requires learning how to understand what I have going on internally, learning how to understand where my kids are at the moment, understanding where they are developmentally, understanding my mindset and using my own brand of "tricks" to tune into what my kids need. Spiritual parenting is a whole life activity, and although there are challenging times - there are and will always be challenging times, we can choose what to input into those moments consciously, and be the models and teach our kids the things that we want them to mirror as they grow - and yes it does take work. There is no such thing as a one stop shop method where all your worries and behavioral issues will go away, but you can start to understand why things are happening, so that you can start to tune into what you want and input into your home and child what you intentionally want to create...and yes it's difficult, but it is so possible...I woke up this morning to this beautiful message in my inbox, from a fellow mamma, who's been in rough spots, but has learned so much from my soul readings and group that she felt called to message me.
On this note, I have also had the distinct pleasure to have been mentioned on MaishaHudson.com, after I did a soul reading for her and her son. She was so pleased and happy that about her reading that she wrote about it Here. Please take a moment to read about it.
If you are curious about a soul reading, you can learn about them, and schedule them HERE...and if you are want to schedule a clarity call, to learn how I can help you in your parenting journey, you can do that HERE. You don't have to feel alone in your parenting, or struggle unnecessarily - schedule a time to talk with me today.