The further I go into life, and as more years pass, I have learned to allow life to teach me lessons so that I may move, create and release what is not serving me, so that I can actually allow my life to become what I envision.
For me, this year, has been all about observation so that I can move into what I am actively trying to create.
Today I want to talk about the lessons, that 2018 has left me with.
In life, we are all always growing and evolving. Sometimes it’s easy to see, other times, it’s difficult.
As the new year is here, I realize now, in reflection of last, that the lessons that I have gathered throughout last year, have been lessons a-long-time coming.
Lessons that have transformed me at the core.
They have allowed me to release what is keeping me from stepping into life and have helped me keep embracing what I want to create.
Today, I want to share with you, the 5 things that I learned in 2018 that have transformed me and my life, deeply.
1. Stay off social media, in all its forms, as much as possible.
I know that in today's world it’s hard not to have some sort of social media account. We are all incredibly connected in so many ways. On one hand, social media and video platforms are a gift, in the sense that we can keep up with those that we love, and those who may be far away. It helps us learn, considering we literally have the world at our fingers. We can even help others through this platform.
But I’ve also realized how easy it is, to become extremely dependent and unbalanced because of these platforms.
I realized half way through the year, that I was using social media as a crutch and allowing it to take me away from my day to day. I post when I have to, respond to others and my clients, but I get on, and get off.
Which leads me to point number two.
2. Being present is where it’s at.
Often, we use devices and/or vices (isn’t it funny that the word vices is in the word devices?), to distract us from the things that we need to understand or see in our lives, so that we can grow from and through.
It’s easy to numb ourselves to the realities of what we are feeling and experiencing, especially when we don’t see or are not living the lives that we feel we should be.
3. Everyone needs support.
We all need someone in our corner to walk with us and guide us into what or where we are moving into.
We’ve been taught, have taken in, and have believed for far too long that we are islands and that we are supposed to brave things by ourselves. We think that pushing through and moving mountains makes us stronger, better, worthier (or whatever) humans… when the truth is that we all need support. Reaching out to people that support, love and trusts you is healthy, acceptable, and a part of self-love.
I'm finding more, and being more.
4. Being where you are is perfectly fine.
The idea of being, happy, content, joyful, aligned, etc., has been playing tricks with us for way too long. We have fallen into the trap that tells us that this is the way that things should be all the time, when the truth is another.
Life is full of many emotions and experiences, all with the purpose of teaching us something and helping us move into another space in our lives. All these places and feelings have a purpose, and the purpose is varied, but important, because these places help us unlock what is not serving us, so that we can move into what will. What we must do is stop judging these places as good or bad, and just allow them to be what they are. Check points along the way that are showing us ourselves.
I've learned this at other times, but revisiting it, is always a good thing. It reminds me that life is always unfolding and evolving.
5. Change is inevitable.
The nature of life is change. When we embrace it, we allow creations to give us just what we need to help us reach the things that we are striving for, the things that we desire, and to allow our lives to become the version of ourselves that we want to become.
This year has taught me many lessons, and what I keep coming back to is the fact that sometimes, the way doesn’t look the way that we think it’s going to look, sometimes, it’s messy and sloppy. Often, we’re presented with circumstances that feel like the exact opposite of what we want. But, when we open-up, allow, release, and surrender into our lives and what’s happening in it, we’re able to co-create what we desire because we allow ourselves to tune into what is being birthed from us.
Here’s to another year, where we can release the ties to those things that no longer serve us, so that we can act upon and create what will help us continue to heal, thrive, tune into, and fall in love with our lives...because when we learn how to actually LIVE in our LIVES, we can take what's happening, at any moment and grow.
"It's never about the thing itself, It's about what the thing represents."
- Violet Moon
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