Your heart: the wrong place to mommy from...what I go to instead.

I long time ago, I would've said that all a mother has to do is follow her heart. But today, I find that this is no longer true for me. Now. Before you get angry  let me explain. 

​I do believe that we mamas have to listen to our hearts, because that is where our feelings are, it is where we tap into what's going on, and the emotions that are present at any moment. But the problem is that it's not enough, because our hearts can put in in places where we are subjecting ourselves or our children to things or situations that are not the best for us. We are by nature sensitive and emotional creatures - add our children to that and forget it, we will be lost in our emotions for way too long.

The purpose of our hearts is to connect us with our emotions - the problem however comes when we listen to our emotions to the point that logic or reason also go out of the window. Our emotions are for us to feel,  and not to think with. This is the purpose of them. Feeling. Not thinking. This is why, the hardest thing to do is to think clearly when we are emotional: sad, angry, happy. We become lost in our emotions and then react - they cloud our judgments. They bring automatic reactions: or reactions that come from a place deep within, that we don't fully understand.

For instance, just recently, my three year old went through a period in which he wanted to do nothing more than watch videos on mine or daddy's phone. In the beginning it was not a big deal, and we let him do it for a while...then we began to realize that this was becoming all that he wanted to do...for a short while, we allowed because he was upset and sad, and so we thought 'alright not a big deal. It's for a short amount of time, and he's ok. He's not bothering anyone, it's only a few videos.' Then it became more and more. Now, at first my heart was sad, because I didn't want to see him sad. I didn't want my little guy to cry and become upset. My heart hurt and I wanted to make him better...but my logic knew that there was something wrong with this. He was becoming obsessed with it. He was opting out of play with his siblings, curios exploration, and things that are normal for a three year old, because he was looking forward to the moment when he could watch videos on the phones. My heart was sad over the situation, but my gut told me that this was not right, and we began to take the phone away and set limits with the time. Sure he became upset, but I took it as a cue to let him feel his feelings in their entirety...so what is one to follow when the heart isn't fully the right answer? I'll tell you. Your instincts. 

As women, and mothers we have great instincts. We know in our guts and can feel when something is not working out instinctively (as what was happening with my three year old). We often become aware of when things need changes or need to be adjusted by the way that it feels to us. Listening to our instincts, our spirits and souls, do a much better job at helping us to understand what is right for our children and families.

Our hearts are our guides. They show us what emotions are in front of us. It provides us with a glimpse into the energies that are present - but it can be deceiving when we are still not fully aware how to separate our emotions from our reactions. However, our instincts/the small little voice that is within, the one that always had the answers when you needed it, doesn't misguide you, because that voice is a part of your pure self. It is in contact with the divine. It knows the truth as soon as it comes across it...and this is where the answers come from. From that silent place when all of the emotions from the heart have been processed.

So the next time you're wrestling with something, listen to what your heart is feeling, and then tap into your instincts - to the divine flow that knows the answer, and combine the two, to help you create magic...

...as far as my three year old, he still watches videos, from time to time, but the limits that have been set, have created a much more balanced little dude, who's day is full of more natural play and normal three year old curiosity. 

-Violet

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