A few weeks ago, I learned a new word...pronoia. Pronoia means the opposite of paranoia. Meaning, rather than feeling like if everything in the universe is out to get you, what you believe instead, is that everything in the universe is conspiring to help you. I swear to you, it's my new favorite word. Although I've lived in this state for a very long time, I didn't know that there was an actual term for it.
You see, one of the things that I consciously work on, is my mindset, and in learning how to use the things that are happening, within my life as tools to help me both to get a deeper understanding of myself and how I can set myself free from things that no longer serve me. Why because of pronoia of course. The simple truth is that when we understand how our thoughts shape our world, and the things that happen to us, we can begin to live in the world that we want to live, and we can create the kind of life that we want to have consciously...and what better way to achieve this than pronoia. How does this happen, by starting to understand your mindset and the energies that you are putting into your world.
Over the last few years, I have made it a point to consistently work on my parenting mindset - because I realized that when I understand what my thoughts are creating and manifesting in my home, I can consistently, work on changing the thought patterns that lead into behaviors that I don't want my kids to replicate. In the blog post Mindset is the Most Powerful and Transformative Parenting Tool I give an example of how understanding my mindset, and how choosing to change the way that I was viewing a difficult situation with my sons, helped me not only diffuse the situation, but also get the best out of it.
The reason that it is so important to understand your mindset when you parent is because when you are un-aware of what you're putting into a situation, it's easy to go into autopilot and reenact behaviors or patterns that were modeled to you in childhood - and for those of us, who want to change these generational patterns, understanding your mindset is the greatest tool that you have. It can be as simple as changing a word when you're having a bad moment, to something else that will put you in a different thought pattern: saying my son is so controlling, to, my son is great at understanding what he wants and going after that - he's a great leader. Both words have the same understanding, but give you a different view of the situation. By choosing a positive work rather than a negative one, you can start to see situations in a different way. The reason that this works is because subconsciously, and emotionally we see the situation in another way and are able to react in a way according to the result that we want to have.
Do you want to learn how to start understanding your mindset and how to start shifting it to start seeing and creating the kind of life that you want to create with your children now? You can schedule a FREE call with me HERE, where I can help you learn to see the patterns that are coming up in your daily life and how you can start to change them, and begin to create what you do want...and don't forget to join the fun in my FB group, Soul Centered Mamma Tribe. This week we will be discussing mindset and how to start to understand it and also how to turn it around.