Today I want to talk about Spirit Baby Readings.
New Year comes fast doesn’t it?
It’s hard to believe that it’s already 2018. I feel as if 2017 was so short, maybe because I began 2017 with the intension of doing one thing, but the year took me in an entire new direction.
In 2017 I set out to conquer the world, with Soul Centered Mama. I felt at that time, that the way for me to help mamas, was to help them learn how to understand their children’s behavior, so they could learn to become the kind of mama who parents from the the soul - and 2017 reminded me that there is so much more to parenting from the soul than just understanding behavioral stuff, because there is deeper work that we do with our children, ourselves, and within our lives, to help us become Soul Centered so that we can be Soul Centered Mamas.
One of the things that I do best, is flow in order to introspect, and see the things that are happening all around me with detachment and understanding - so that when the time to act is upon me, I can step into the action that is required…now that we are officially in 2018, I can understand why 2017 was the way that it was: a year that I had to release and leave a lot of habits and thoughts that I identified with deeply behind me. I had to make and live many life changes, which reminded me that parenting, child behavior, and life are all intertwined. I remembered that changes are a part of life - and I had to change.
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Last week being New Year, a lot of us, were feeling the desire to make changes, and move away from things that no longer serve us - even though, many have been feeling the desire to make changes for quite sometime, I feel like it’s still the perfect time for me to talk about changes and maintaining changes in the long run, because it’s easy for life to swoop back into the same old stuff when we’re not consciously aware of how to continue the plans for the things that we want to do.
Today I want to talk to you about the mechanics of change.
Not because you want to reach a goal or because you were prompted to by a holiday, but because somewhere inside of yourself, you feel the inkling that something has to change - and when we know the process behind change, it’s easier to maintain what we want to create.
2017 showed me that in order or me to get to where I want to be, that I had to release what was not what or where I wanted to be, but more importantly I had to release the control of how.
2017 taught me about change through all of the events of last year, that really drove home, the fact that being a Soul Centered Mama, is more than just one aspect of life and motherhood, but also the deep process that permeates changes on various levels of life, and showed me the how changes happen.
Today I want to share, with you these steps.
Surrender doesn’t mean giving up, it means knowing that something is not serving you, and allowing yourself the permission to change your mind. One of the things that we do, with or without realization is that we hold onto the idea of things that no longer serve us, because it’s what we know. It’s comfortable. In order to make changes, we have to surrender the idea or attachment to what no longer works. We have to be willing to part. To let yourself change your mind about what you thought was.
Allow yourself the space to heal, deeply. Healing your self, is often not instant, but comes in stages and waves. Sometimes, things feel like they’re going great as you go along, and then something comes in to put a kink in what you envisioned, and here you go, either backwards, or feeling down about something. This is ok. It’s a process. In this process many things will come up that will bring up more layers of the puzzle pieces that you’re trying to put together. Sometimes you need another insight. Sometimes, it’s another layer of stuff. Maybe it’s another change that necessary. It’s all ok. You’re gathering and understanding. Be ok with where you are, and allow yourself to be there without getting down on yourself. It’s part of the process. This usually happens throughout all of these other layers.
Allow yourself to feel that feelings that are attached to what you were holding on to. Know that there are emotions and feelings that will come up. Allowing them to come up as they come. Know that you’re grieving different parts of yourself. Your identity of what you thought was, in order to allow what will be. Sadness, exhaustion, crying, upset, anger, loss, etc. All of these normal things might come up. It’s ok. Let them come.
Similar to surrender, release is about letting go. Letting go of old habits. Releasing what your are doing, that no longer works. Realizing and releasing the grip that we have on habits and patterns that no longer align with what we are trying to create anew. Allow yourself to make changes, as you go along that help you to move into consciously creating the newness.
5. Trust/Be open.
I learned that all circumstances that come up, no matter how cruddy they feel, are ultimately part of the change. Trust that everything is happening for you to keep releasing. We have to be open to things that come up so that we can move into new. Change after all means something new. Sometimes new feels uneasy and makes us afraid. That’s ok. It’s part of change. When we trust that we will get what we want, it’s amazing how the universe synchronizes with us, to help us make the changes. We just have to trust without attachment (surrender) to what things will look like, or what they’re supposed to look like.
2017 was a year of lots of surrender and change for me, and while some of it was hard, all of it, at the end came because it helped me deepen the work that I am here to do. The work that will help me help mamas, in the various areas of their lives.
Does it mean that it’s easy? Nope. But it’s always worth it. All of it helped my understand the depth that we are healing, in order for us to be the change in our lives and for out children, and to help us align with our truths and selves.
Understanding how change happens, makes it easier to move into what you’re creating and how to make it happen.
P.S. To learn more, talk to me or schedule a Soul Reading, go HERE.
After a busy day of home schooling, starting the day with some work assignments for my Forest School training whilst the kids slept, then taking them out for a morning walk to try and quell the squabbling and bickering which had been yesterday, we got home from their evening swimming club and I faced the kitchen; dinner to cook, dishes to wash, and preparing the activities for tomorrow’s Forest School session. I looked around, all surfaces covered; plates, laundry, the sticky skins of lemons the girls had squeezed to make lemonade with mint from the garden earlier in the day, pots of dry lentils and beans my four year old loves to play with, the calls of the kids from the next room, and I felt truly, utterly beaten.
Beaten, not by the difficult behaviour of my kids, for they are no trouble really, they are lovely, vibrant, busy children, exploring, creating, learning, but beaten by the weight of the everyday overwhelm of everything that it takes to care for kids and run a home. There is just so much to do, always and everyday. And if we as mothers are not very careful, this overwhelm can soon take hold of us, distort our vision, overthrow our hormonal balance and wring the joy clean out of our mothering journey.
Sometimes we have to take a stand against it, against this morass of pressure which builds up within and around ourselves, and which oozes from social media. We have to stand up to it and say ‘no more’. We have to recognize that we are enough. That we are doing enough. That we love and care for our kids more than words can say, and we are doing our very best with the resources we have in each moment.
So let us face that overwhelm, and the voices which accompany it, chastising us, taunting us, reminding us of how we are failing, of how we are not enough, of how we are so much less than. Let us face this. Let us make it stop, and let us remind ourselves, dear, gentle mothers, that we are great. That we are greater, that we are so much greater than the overwhelm which surrounds us.
Rather than trying to run away from it, to shut everyone up, to quickly restore order, walk into the overwhelm, not away from it, walk deeper and deeper into it. And be still. Breathe deeper, deeper than the feelings, the intensity, the drama. As you may have done through labour and birth, taking your breath deeper than the intensity of the experience. Stop, and feel your power. Know you are a Creator. Know that all of this we see before us is of our own creation, and that of those around us. We are powerful creators, we have got this.
Step into the overwhelm, and breathe.
And say to yourself I am here; say to your children I am here.
For the power resides in your words, for when we are here, so fully and completely, with every fibre of our being, we are here, completely alive and in the present moment. And it is from here (and only here), that we are truly powerful and that we can truly affect change.
Look around, breathe deeper than the whole situation, and remind yourself, I am here. Feel this truth deep down in your body, deep in your belly, deep in your womb space.
Awaken to the presence of your power, and the power of your presence.
Allow the stillness to coarse through your veins, allow the spinning and shouting to fade away. Breathe deeper, and bring a sense of stillness to your surroundings.
Feel strength uprising, a strength far greater than the situation, and so capable, so able to hold what needs to be held.
Then feel an awakening in your heart. Feel fierce, pure unconditional love flowing from your heart centre, and feel a softening. As we hold the situation with our power, as we have this, we enable our hearts to open wide and from here we are able to see, once again, with eyes of love, compassion, empathy and understanding.
We have the power to hold, to sort, to connect, to create and re-create.
We remember. We are capable. We are wise.
Gentle mothers, we are so much more than the piles of laundry, the odd socks and diapers, we are so much greater than the unwashed dishes, the sibling squabbles and the feelings of failure which pervade our thoughts when we haven’t been as much, or as good as we hoped we could or should have been.
We are powerful, passionate and loving creators. We hold our children in our hearts, our minds, our arms and our homes. We hold them and tend to them with a love so fierce at times it scares us and shakes us to our core.
Breathe into your power, your love and your fierceness. Breathe deeper than the overwhelm, breathe deeper than whatever creations trouble you just now. Breathe deeper than them all.
And then find your point of stillness.
Connect with your power, connect with your gentle, fierce, pure and loving heart. And look at your kids, yourself and your situation through eyes of love. Feel waves of empathy, understanding and compassion flowing through you. You are love. And so are they. Remind yourself of this.
And now breathe deeper, deep down, all the way, to your place of inner power and indomitable strength. Remember you are as powerful as the Earth. Remember you are a Creator. Remember that you have this. You can do it. You are doing it. And then take a step forward. A step of love, a step of power. For one blazes the way for the other.
You are all of these things gentle mothers; we see you and we need you. Breathe deep, and share your fierceness, gentleness, strength and love with your children and the world. Remember this, we need you.
- Clare Cooper
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Today I want to share with you the truth of it means to parent consciously...because the truth is something different than what many people think...the truth is that this road can hurt and it's time for the truth to be seen, for what it is.
The ugly bits. The ones that many of us woke folk won't talk about...you ready? It will be a bumpy ride...
I grow with and through my children always, but that does not mean that it's easy...
Let me paint you a picture, because I live for the beautiful moments with our children that you see plastered all over:
...picture three brothers playing peacefully with each other. Taking turns and being considerate of one another. Having conversations about something that they heard, saw or learned about. Speaking to the youngest one with so much consideration that any onlooker would be in awe at such a sight. The sounds of laughter and cooperation filling the air...
Yes, this is beautiful and melodic indeed, and often happen in my home...but do you know just how these moments come to be? How we get here, and how this is cultivated through the moments that don't look like this (moment's that happen as well).
Do you know how many days and nights of soul searching there has to be in order for this to come to pass?
How many times I have to go within the depths of myself and darkness to make this happen?
Learning to stay present, in the moments that I want to disconnect from instead. Being present to screams, crying, fighting over toys, implications, and overwhelming toddler screams to make this happen? Over and over again.
The times that I had to stop to question my own programming, conditioning, automatic reactions, hurt, beliefs patterns and stories, to get there...and the reality that this has to happen consistently.
Do you know how many times I had to train my being, to look for the reason why. To tune in and find out their why and purpose, while tuning into and then releasing my judgments? All the while questioning my behavior and learning how to stop my own reactions?
Learning to listen to the feelings of the little one - or really more appropriate in my case "ones" - in front of me, to make the beautiful scene above happen? So that I can input into them what I want them to take versus what I feel.
Learning to see beyond a momentary discomfort into the cause of the problem.
Learning to care less about the thoughts of strangers while I'm out and about with my kids, when my three year old is having a meltdown because he is tired or hungry, so that I can address what he needs instead.
You see, the truth is that being a conscious mama has less to do with the things that people think about when they think conscious or "woke", i.e., crystals, channeling, astrology, tarot, organic, vegan, spells, etc., and more to do with being fully here now, allowing yourself to break wide open, for a deeper understanding, healing and then doing it again. Each time with the promise that what you receive will be a version of you, that is more whole than the last, even though it hurts now.
Being a conscious parent, means willing to face all of those dark parts within, so that you can face the little human that is looking at you without. The same one who is subconsciously poking around at all of those ugly dark parts - and learning how to release the idea of it being their fault or any of the judgments that come with these pokes.
It means, learning to face the shadow, ego, lions, wildness and hurt child within, and dying a million deaths to be the best parent possible for the child that is in front of you right now - with each child requiring his or her own set of action.
Learning to quiet the part of me that wants to run away from the thought of being touched, and learning to soften that for the little one who needs demonstrations of love much more than me needing to be left alone.
As a result teaching me the importance of healing the part who was told that touch during times of high emotions is bad or to be rejected...
It means learning the difference between discipline that builds, from the little voice that is telling you that your voice rules.
It means commitment to following this process through, and then doing it over and over again...through exhaustion, and the feelings of wanting to stop.
So. When I talk about conscious parenting, yup I'm all cosmos, stars and rainbows, but the truth is that the work that is happening is deeper than earth bound, it's work that is connected to the most important thing of all. My being. To that raw open space that wants to run away, and yet can't.
My commitment to this life, and to brining in the next level of 'conscious, woke folk', is bigger than me, and greater than a few tools (although don't get me wrong, I LOVE those tools)...but the truth is that the tools, and life style things, are just the surface - because the practice and action have to be consistent. We have to work on doing those things over and over again. The depths of navigation that is required to bring in people who are aware and free from the past that can bind us, is bigger than these things...and I am committed to the lifestyle and also to helping others understand these things also.
The parents that I have read for, have become instantly transformed through the sessions, but the truth is that there is always something that has to be moved into, with action - something that has to be faced or moved through. An action that we must do, or something that has to be felt...yes, it's a magical process, but it is a process indeed.
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Healing your body, mind and soul after a negative birth experience can be very challenging. Your experiences maybe have you feeling empty, alone, heartbroken or even depressed or traumatised? Maybe you feel like a complete failure, or completely disconnected from your little one? Let me tell you honey, whatever it is you are feeling, it is ok! It is ok, not to be ok! But it is also ok to want to move forward and let go of what no longer serves you.
I have been working with women all around the world, supporting them to heal their (birth)trauma. There are many things we can do to help you move forward to start your healing journey, but most importantly I want you to know is that you are not alone! You are not the only one who is feeling like this and you will get through this. But what can you do? When you feel in such a dark place? Let’s talk about my 3 favourite tips to help you get started;
Tip 1 – listen to your body
What you feel does matter, how you feel also matters, in fact you matter! Start tuning into your body and listen to what it is telling you. Do it right now, just for a minute or 2. I will wait... Close your eyes and feel.
Do you feel angry? Why are you angry? What is behind the anger? Or is it sadness? Or fear? Keep peeling away the layers and keep going until you get to your core. What is it what you need? Do you need to rest? Mourn? Go outside for a walk? Take up some new hobbies? Whatever it is, you need to start giving this to yourself.
Your body can hold onto a traumatic experience, even years after. You can feel this anywhere in your body, but what I see most often is sadness in the chest area, and guilt in the stomach. Our bodies do this, in case something similar happens again, so it can respond quickly right away to keep us safe.
If those feelings aren’t dealt with, it can lead to long-term health problems. That is why it is crucial to make time for yourself each day, to recognise these signs and paying the attention they deserve.
Tip 2 – Do what you love
The next step for you is to start doing what you enjoy again. What did you use to enjoy? Do you still enjoy it? If not, what would you like to start doing? It doesn’t have to cost a lot; it can be as simple as getting out some pen and paper out and making a beautiful drawing. Or maybe make yourself a lovely cup of tea of those tea leaves in the back of your cupboard you have been saving for ‘later’. Your time is now lady, and you need to put yourself first.
I love to use the example of a beautiful rose bush in this case. If the bush doesn’t row right, do we blame the bush? Do we tell the rose how worthless she is? Or do we help her, nurture her, replace her soil, give her water, food and the attention she needs to grow and blossom her beautiful flowers? You need to treat yourself like the beautiful roses! You can’t poor from an empty cup, so start filling it with what you need.
Tip 3 – I am Love
Stop telling yourself that you can’t. I can’t do it, I can’t afford it, I can’t [....] fill in the blank. For the next 4 weeks, I want you to start telling yourself that you can. I can be happy, I can put myself first, I can make that available in my budget. And maybe after those 4 weeks, you want to start saying yourself that “I am happy, I am beautiful, I love you [your name]” when looking into the mirror. Start loving yourself, the good, the bad and everything in between.
You are a beautiful woman and you deserve to be happy.
Susanne Grant is an International Birth & Healing coach and specialises in (Birth) Trauma, PTSD & Body Issues. She supports women all around the world during pregnancy and after birth, providing them with the tools to heal (sexual) abuse & trauma as well as traumatic births. We felt Susanne would be the perfect addition to our website and we asked her to write this beautiful guest blog for you, in which she will share her 3 tips on how to heal birth trauma.
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The most powerful thing that a woman can have, in her child rearing years, is a tribe. There. I said it…I remember when my children were all small, the years of four under four…as I like to call it…were some of the hardest years of my life, because these were the years that I was in the thick of it.
All of my children were young. They all needed me all of the time, and I felt that I had very little to give.
I was tired most of that time. I was sleep deprived. I had very little to no help, and everything depended on me. And for a long time, I felt like I was coming apart.
This was the time that I needed the most help, and support and yet, I had none. I was alone most of the time, when I needed sisterhood and community the most…
…because these years, these formative years when our children are younger, the time when their emotional state is created, the foundation for their lives, is when mothers should receive nurturing and caring support, so that they can be as balanced as possible.
But instead the reverse is true. This is the time when a lot of us, are lacking a solid support.
The damage that has been done to motherhood, on many levels, has ensured that we are alone when we need help the most.
A lot of our communities are damaged. The matriarchs of old, are broken, and the tribes that held us up, when it is most needed is no longer available.
Instead what we have is brokenness.
We have competition, we have hurt, we have others protecting their truth onto us.
We have mothers and women who are stuck in loops of pain from the past, who can no longer sustain the village that is needed…and the damage shows.
The pain that is in us, from the loss of tribe and connection, reverberates though us and our children.
It is a loud echo that is felt deeply in the hearts of our collective womanhood.
But today, I proclaim that this is no longer an option.
Today, I state publicly that we need to do better.
Today, I am giving mothers what I needed in those days of four under four.
I am giving you a tribe.
A tribe that listens to you while you heal.
A tribe that helps you when you are down.
A tribe that listens to you, and says "I see you sister.”
A nurturing community.
A sacred space…online. Because many of us, don’t have the option of leaving our children with someone…and mostly because this is the way that is easiest for many to gather - for now...
A space where you can come and learn about the delicacies that is childhood, childhood behavior and how to grow with your child, about yourself and how to release what doesn’t serve you, all while receiving the support of sisterhood.
Support that builds. Support that grows. Support that sees you where you are, and lifts you while you learn about how to be the best mama for your child, understand yourself and them…all while holding you, in a sacred space, while you grow.
Today, I announce that the SCM Sacred Motherhood Tribe, is officially open for enrollment.
It’s time that we come together as a whole and nurture each other where we are. Where we learn to give and receive love, in the ways that we want to give it to our children, while we learn how to be the best mother possible for our children…in the way that we deserve. Sisterhood that builds.
Time to grow from sacred sisterhood that heals…and it all begins Thursday, March 16th.
Do you want to learn more Go here.
P.S. The video for our Empowered Mama Workshop Series, SHADOW is available now! Click here to see.
Over the last few weeks - ever since I introduced the Ancestral/Matriarchal Lineage Soul Reading - I have been gaining a deeper understanding about myself and my role in my maternal line. The world has opened up and I am understanding, the complexities and energies of my role in the bigger picture of what I am doing. I can see with more clarity how the past choices of my mother (and her mother before her) brought us to the spaces that we are in today, as well as how I do the same with my children…it’s almost line I can see the decisions, thoughts and actions manifest…and my connection to the world as a whole and to other mothers and their daughters has also been expanded.
A few days ago, I decided to skim through the movie Lovelace - something that has been happening to me more and more…the desire to watch movies (I rarely watch movies, or TV - but have been called to, over the last few weeks), and this movie was one of them. It is the real life story of a young woman gets married to a abusive and controlling man, who pushed her into doing pornography…and about the abuse that she suffered a result of him and how she got out of it *if this king of stuff triggers you, please don’t watch the movie - I assure you I had to skip thorough most of the movie because I am very sensitive to these themes and stories* …now I know that you’re thinking, ‘ Okay, what does this have to do with anything?’ Well to put it simply, somewhere along the story, before she is able to actually get away from the abuse, she decided that she wanted to get away from her husband and the abuse, and she went to her mother to ask for a place to stay: she describes some of the abuse that she is going through with her husband, to which her mother responds, “well what did you do?”, proceeding to remind her that women must be obedient to their husbands and other things along this line.
At the end of the movie, once the character is free from the abusive husband, and is talking about her experience, she is asked the question by a TV host, regarding how she ended up the porn industry and why she allowed the husband to dictate to her what she did, to the extent that she did, her response was 'I grew up thinking that I had to be obedient to my husband.’ Stating somehow that she was taught not to question and to comply…and for me, it all came down to the reality that, no matter how much we try to avoid it, the decisions that we make, the way that we treat and react to, and the thoughts, habits and energies that we put into our children, have an effect - and the energies of these things carry further than we understand at the moment that they are happening.
After doing some research, after the movie, I learned that the mother of the protagonist was a devoutly religious women, who’s views on marriage and life, were very rigid and shaped her daughter to the point that she felt, in her Self, that she had no choice other than to obey her abuser…yes, it’s easy to say well, she didn’t have to. Or to think well, she could’ve always escaped and not have followed what was taught to her, but I ask you:
How many of us, unconsciously create and act out what we viewed as children? Or how many times do you react in a way that remind you of your mother? Things that you thought or swore that you would never do or say to your children, make it’s way our of your mouth or came up as actions?…
In order to make the changes necessary in our lives, to escape the conditioning that was input into us as children we must really dig within and question everything about us: thoughts, beliefs, meanings of ourselves, the role that the people around us play…it is a very involved process.
The story of her life has brought me back to the reminder that the things: ideas, examples, thoughts, etc., have a lasting effect of who they are.
As I step away from her perspective, the protagonist and move into a space of understanding her mom, and I think about how she must’ve felt to know that the belief system that she inputted into her daughter caused to much pain for the both of them:
this also connects me to the pain that must’ve been inputted into the mom from childhood (to grip an ideology so heavily as a saving grace), as well as the pain that this must've caused her (the protagonist) children, and the healing that must’ve had to happen or is probably still happening, I am amazed by the grander off all of this.
Spiritually, as a channel I see, and understand the bigger picture:
This was necessary in part of the the human consciousness in order to help women release some of the baggages of bondage to the patriarchy that was apparent throughout the entire movie: her mother’s, as well as the use of her body by being objectified the way that it was. I understand that this journey was necessary to help her get into a space where she grew stronger through the lack of strength. She was forced to climb through the trenches in life, to find her voice, for her maternal line, who had none, and to help other women, through a book that she eventually wrote, to help victimized and abused women in the world…
But as a mother and a woman, I am reminded that this moment, NOW, is where the things change. It’s where the stuff happens, and it can only happen when I change myself, so that my junk is not passed onto my children - and this movie was a great reminder of this concept.
When I started to move into a space of becoming a more in-tuned mama in order to change the things that I didn’t want to input into my children, the first place that I started was in becoming in-tuned with myself. I began to listen to myself, my stories, my thoughts, and my feelings…I began with stripping myself from the things that no longer served my children. I took their behavior as my guides. I allowed myself question myself and question my actions…I learned to become empowered by learning how to empower my children. I learned how to understand what was happening around me, and tuned into my inner world, and into the things that made my family, my lineage as well as my children…and I know that it’s time for more of us to do this inner work as well.
To understand how our choices, affect our children in the future. TO do away with the junk within ourselves that no longer serves us. To empower ourselves and our children and the coming lineage.
I know that it is no coincidence that the Ancestral/Maternal Lineage Soul Readings have been brought to life at this moment. Because the time for them is right. Now more than ever, we: Mothers/Woman are ready to step into our power. To understand the things that shaped us at one point, understand they why’s, connect with our lineage, energetically, release what no longer serves, and move into our power so that our children can grow in the world, free from the chains of the past.
I was fortunate to find a space when my children were younger where I learned how to claim my power, and I want to share with you how to do this also…
Myself and two shamanic teachers, have put together a video series, and workshop called the Empowered Mama, where we will be helping mamas step into this space. We will be giving them get the tools to step into a space where they are empowered in their journey, by helping the access the things that they are here to heal and move forward from, with their children.
Because it is time for us to move into our power. To do the work that we are here to do, and learn how to release the things that no longer serve us - to heal ourselves and our children. To learn more about this video series, as well as the 2 day workshop in NY go here.
Or if you want to receive a Ancestral/Matriarchal Linage Soul Reading, or learn more about them, go HERE.
While many women dream of becoming doctors, lawyers and CEOs, some of us dream of becoming mothers.
Unfortunately, many women are robbed of that precious gift, due to infant loss or infertility.
According to the March of Dimes, as many as 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. That's about 1 in 4 women...
....I happened to be that "1" in 4.
And after being left with unanswered questions and the option of fertility drugs, (which never addresses the deep-rooted issue) I begin to search for natural alternatives. In my quest, I was awakened to my innate abilities to heal myself and birthed a vibrant prince!
My name is Angelique Jefferson, often referred to as the ‘Womb Whisperer’, I help women who struggle with fertility issues, welcome new life into their bodies. Through personalized holistic methods for the mind, body and soul, I help women release emotional trauma, enhance their reproductive health and create new life.
The key to holistic conception is to tap into your inherited power, as the divine feminine and heed to your body's whispers.
In preparing for pregnancy, it's not only important to cultivate the physical body, but the emotional and mental bodies. We carry so much within our wombs: resentment, anger, jealousy, envy, guilt, secrets, lies, shame, etc. These emotions (energy-in-motion) manifest as dis-ease in the physical body and oftentimes, are passed down to the next generation.
When faced with challenges of trying to conceive, it's imperative to look deeper within. Unfortunately, many women are unaware of underlying issues that require time to heal. This leads to desperation and drugs - further burying the issue, leaving it to fester into a bigger problem.
Biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton, states:
"Your children's genes reflect only their potential, not their destiny. It is up to you to provide the environment that allows them to develop to their highest potential."
This suggests that your cells are programmed with information from past experiences, despite whether you've forgotten about them, suppressed or ignored them..they're still there lingering in the closet ready to attach to the soul of your baby at conception. All of who we are, become apart of the signature imprint our baby!
As a Sacred Holistic Fertility Coach, I express to my clients that, “woven in every perceived circumstance, is a potential gift" - that gift is that you have the opportunity to not only prepare for conception but create an ideal internal environment for your baby to develop to their highest potential. Within you is the innate ability to gain control of your fertility health.
Whether it's PCOS, multiple miscarriages, irregular periods or unexplained infertility, it all boils down to this:
Are you willing to do that which is required of you on behalf of the lineages you represent?
A mother has a grand responsibility in shaping the future. Children come to the world with seeded soulful missions and our duty is to help nurture those seeds so they blossom into purposeful members of humanity.
How can we as mothers do this for our children if we haven't taken the time to cultivate who we truly are?
This is why a part of my mission and divine calling is to help facilitate the future teachers, light bearers and healers, in navigating through mothers who are healed, forgiving, loving and being their best self.
This is how we co-create a Legacy of Love, THIS is TRUE Generational Wealth!
Are willing and ready to build your legacy and welcome new life into your body?
Visit me at Lotusmamalove.com
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I love you with my highest love.
It’s easy to think that something may be happening to us and that the events of our lives come to us as a result of our something that is randomly pushing the buttons, but I believe that everything in our lives happen for the reason of helping us move forward, and as a result of something that is moving me forward - and the events of the last few weeks have confirmed this.
It seems that life has plans for me that are bigger than where I have been living and it is apparent in the synchronicity that has been flowing into my every day: a few weeks ago, I was asked by a client, if I channel the mothers - not the higher self of mothers like you and I, but their mothers (grand and great-grandmothers) - in her case her deceased mom. My response was, let’s do this, and a few weeks later, I find myself in a space of adding one of the most important and powerful readings that I have ever had the privilege to introduce: the Ancestor/Maternal Lineage Soul Reading℠. I didn’t know it at the time, but this reading came into being at a time in life where we mothers need it the most. It started off with me connecting to her mama in spirit, and turned into generational healing instead. In a time where a lot of us are feeling our mother wounds caused by millenniums of patriarchy, lost and disconnected matriarchs, and a system in which the nurturing and healing of the children (who’ve now turned into the mothers and fathers) was lost. The bright side is that it has begun to surface, in the ways that we see now:
I believe that if you are reading this, and any or some of these things spoke to you, chances are that you are one of the mamas/women who are here at this time to bring forth the changes that are happening…and I am here to say that you are not alone, and I am here to help you, with the service that was called into me: the Ancestral/Maternal Lineage Soul Readings. Although it they didn't start this way, starting online with the intention of connecting with someone's mama on the other side, but they soon turned into more...
...and as I stated, these readings were brought just in time. A time when the world is experiencing much upheaval...and I am ready to answer my calling to bring it all together. These readings bring so much clarity because they get the the core of the problems that you are facing individually - problems caused by the mother wound:
and by a system that began way before you got here. They get to the core of the problems cause within the maternal family line. During each call the energies that are present within the maternal line and your ancestry become present and they come up to heal and help you move forward. The women who have come before step in and shed light on the hurts that have happened and were passed down the generations. They pinpoint where the pain began, and give a full understanding of why you are feeling blocked in your everyday, within yourself, your child or your life - within your lienage. They reconnect you to the past mothers, grandmothers, aunts etc. in your maternal line, those who have come before and have contributed to the energies that are present now. The pain that was passed down from one generation to the other - as well as the strength. The pain that you don’t want to pass onto your children and want to rid from your life, and they offer you the gift of knowing with absolute clarity what it is that you are here to do - and how you’re healing for them, your child, and yourself right now.
Because the truth is that we all experience life according to what our inner world is telling us. We get stuck in patterns and loops of thought, behavior and emotions that drive our lives without us being aware - and this reading came at the right time for us all. Because it is here to help you cut to the chase and get right into what’s happening and what you’re creating, so that you can begin to heal the mother wound caused by the hurt of patriarchy and the inability for the matriarchs to live in their power. This reading gets into the present energies and shows you a mirror into what you’ve been living with, what was passed down to you, how it has affected your life and the changes that you can make to live free from the chains of the hurt caused as a result of not knowing - it also connects the dots with your children and helps you understand what you’re working through with them and how they help you in healing the hurt.
Many of us walk around unaware of the things that we are holding onto or the way that these hurts are affecting us deeply. Some of us feel the need to fight for something, are angry, deeply sad, or depressed, and don’t know why. It’s hard to understand what that the origins of these feelings are, as a result of trauma and hurt that has been caused by generational stories carried down, and things that have been visited onto us, but the truth is that we no longer have to be burdened by these energies. We can use the energies of time that is available now and being to understand and heal. We can use these energies to transform our understanding and perceptions, so that we don’t have to pass these down to our children…we can begin to heal.
I feel blessed to have been given the ability to help mothers and women in this way - I understand that the time for us and for our healing is here, and am continually in awe over the ability for spirit to always bring into my life the necessary things needed for me to keep moving into a space to keep helping more mamas and women begin to heal and move forward…and although this is just the beginning, what a powerful begging it is…to learn more about these specific readings, please contact me here.
We had a newborn and a three-year-old. My husband (MJ) was in a haze of pain from regular migraines, I in one of fatigue. We were both cranky.
I sat in front of my computer 10–16 hours every day, trying to work but spending hours as a social-media zombie. Probably once a day, I heard MJ yelling at the kids, and the kids crying. I would help calm the situation, then go back to slogging through my work, mentally walking through cold molasses.
Finally, sometime after midnight, I would climb into bed with a happy sigh and a huge grin at the thought of an hour or two of sleep before the baby woke to nurse or our daughter woke screaming.
She would shriek like someone was murdering her.
Exhausted, panicked, I frantically tried to quiet her so she wouldn’t wake everyone else. When she was finally calm and I tried to go back to sleep, she scream like a banshee again. Back to her room I went, quietly imploring her to go back to sleep.
Twenty minutes later, more screaming. I would again rush to her room, my voice rising as I begged, pleaded, “I have to sleep. I need sleep. Please, please… please, for the love of … why won’t you sleep?!”
Then I would hear myself yelling, “You are going to wake everyone else up. It is nighttime. It is time for sleep. People are trying to sleep!”
I felt ashamed at my loss of control. Something needed to change, but what? And how?
Our Life Savers
Then I discovered Hal Elrod’s book The Miracle Morning. I liked the idea of getting a better handle on my life by using the Life SAVERS (silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, scribing)—but how in the world could I get up an hour before my kids to do this?! It was all I could do to stumble out of bed when they woke me in the mornings.
I was desperate, though, so I gave it a shot. It worked … sort of.
I started daily self-care again, brushing my teeth, flossing, exercising … even showering! (When did I stop doing these things? I wondered.)
But I felt good enough—almost human again—that I kept going.
Even from his haze of pain and sleepiness, MJ noticed the change in me, so he started doing the Life SAVERS too.
Our days were so much better when we did the SAVERS before the kids woke up, but we still had to claw ourselves out of bed each morning, sometimes before the kids. But I often fell asleep in my silence. And affirmations. And visualization. And reading.
We were seeing enough improvements to stay determined, though, so we muddled through.
Then MJ discovered Shawn Stevenson’s book Sleep Smarter. We were already doing most things Stevenson suggested, but implementing those last few things made a tremendous difference. Suddenly, with sleep in order, everything started falling into place.
A Whole New Family
MJ’s migraines dropped from affecting him every day to only once or twice a month. He went from being anxious about almost everything to calm, even cheerful. Our interpersonal interactions are more considerate, more thoughtful. We treat everyone—including ourselves—with more respect.
We worry less and are present, engaged with our lives, our children, and each other. We accomplish much more every day. We keep our tempers. We rarely yell. Our house is much more peaceful.
Through trial and error, we have 5 essentials that we must to do daily to live this new, better life:
1. Shut off electronics at least 1 1/2 hour before the household’s earliest bedtime--and keep them out of sleeping spaces.
2. Use topical magnesium spray. (Ingested magnesium isn’t nearly as efficacious.) The easiest way to do this is with an epsom-salt soak. MJ, our daughter, and I soak our feet each evening as part of our electronics-free time. (MJ needs more magnesium to keep his headaches down, so he also uses a magnesium spray, which can be purchased or made at home.)
3. Increased physical activity. (Do any activity that you enjoy, but when movement is aligned with breathing, as in yoga or Tai Chi, it can double as silence/meditation.)
4. Silence/meditation. (This brings your attention to the present moment, to observe from a place of detachment. After steady practice, you find a state of calm that you can more easily call to mind when disturbances and agitation arise during the day.)
5. Education/personal development. (Focus on anything you like … anything. The point is to make constant incremental improvement in some aspect of your life. Eventually, you start thinking in whole new ways and getting more creative in everyday problem solving.)
When we do numbers 1 and 2, we fall asleep faster and have better-quality sleep. Then it’s easier to get up when the alarm goes off, which makes numbers 3–5 even easier to do.
Thanks to implementing these strategies, something has shifted in us.
We are hopeful and have found new purpose. We examine everything in our lives, improving what works and eliminating what doesn’t. We are more fully present for everyone. We are kinder, gentler, more understanding. We are better models for our children, who also behave better, sleep better, and are more cheerful.
It all started with the Miracle Morning and sleeping smarter.
- Stephanie R.S. Stringham
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