While many women dream of becoming doctors, lawyers and CEOs, some of us dream of becoming mothers.
Unfortunately, many women are robbed of that precious gift, due to infant loss or infertility.
According to the March of Dimes, as many as 50% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage. That's about 1 in 4 women...
....I happened to be that "1" in 4.
And after being left with unanswered questions and the option of fertility drugs, (which never addresses the deep-rooted issue) I begin to search for natural alternatives. In my quest, I was awakened to my innate abilities to heal myself and birthed a vibrant prince!
My name is Angelique Jefferson, often referred to as the ‘Womb Whisperer’, I help women who struggle with fertility issues, welcome new life into their bodies. Through personalized holistic methods for the mind, body and soul, I help women release emotional trauma, enhance their reproductive health and create new life.
The key to holistic conception is to tap into your inherited power, as the divine feminine and heed to your body's whispers.
In preparing for pregnancy, it's not only important to cultivate the physical body, but the emotional and mental bodies. We carry so much within our wombs: resentment, anger, jealousy, envy, guilt, secrets, lies, shame, etc. These emotions (energy-in-motion) manifest as dis-ease in the physical body and oftentimes, are passed down to the next generation.
When faced with challenges of trying to conceive, it's imperative to look deeper within. Unfortunately, many women are unaware of underlying issues that require time to heal. This leads to desperation and drugs - further burying the issue, leaving it to fester into a bigger problem.
Biologist, Dr. Bruce Lipton, states:
"Your children's genes reflect only their potential, not their destiny. It is up to you to provide the environment that allows them to develop to their highest potential."
This suggests that your cells are programmed with information from past experiences, despite whether you've forgotten about them, suppressed or ignored them..they're still there lingering in the closet ready to attach to the soul of your baby at conception. All of who we are, become apart of the signature imprint our baby!
As a Sacred Holistic Fertility Coach, I express to my clients that, “woven in every perceived circumstance, is a potential gift" - that gift is that you have the opportunity to not only prepare for conception but create an ideal internal environment for your baby to develop to their highest potential. Within you is the innate ability to gain control of your fertility health.
Whether it's PCOS, multiple miscarriages, irregular periods or unexplained infertility, it all boils down to this:
Are you willing to do that which is required of you on behalf of the lineages you represent?
A mother has a grand responsibility in shaping the future. Children come to the world with seeded soulful missions and our duty is to help nurture those seeds so they blossom into purposeful members of humanity.
How can we as mothers do this for our children if we haven't taken the time to cultivate who we truly are?
This is why a part of my mission and divine calling is to help facilitate the future teachers, light bearers and healers, in navigating through mothers who are healed, forgiving, loving and being their best self.
This is how we co-create a Legacy of Love, THIS is TRUE Generational Wealth!
Are willing and ready to build your legacy and welcome new life into your body?
Visit me at Lotusmamalove.com
You can also find me on Instagram & Facebook at Angelique Jefferson.
I love you with my highest love.
It’s easy to think that something may be happening to us and that the events of our lives come to us as a result of our something that is randomly pushing the buttons, but I believe that everything in our lives happen for the reason of helping us move forward, and as a result of something that is moving me forward - and the events of the last few weeks have confirmed this.
It seems that life has plans for me that are bigger than where I have been living and it is apparent in the synchronicity that has been flowing into my every day: a few weeks ago, I was asked by a client, if I channel the mothers - not the higher self of mothers like you and I, but their mothers (grand and great-grandmothers) - in her case her deceased mom. My response was, let’s do this, and a few weeks later, I find myself in a space of adding one of the most important and powerful readings that I have ever had the privilege to introduce: the Ancestor/Maternal Lineage Soul Reading℠. I didn’t know it at the time, but this reading came into being at a time in life where we mothers need it the most. It started off with me connecting to her mama in spirit, and turned into generational healing instead. In a time where a lot of us are feeling our mother wounds caused by millenniums of patriarchy, lost and disconnected matriarchs, and a system in which the nurturing and healing of the children (who’ve now turned into the mothers and fathers) was lost. The bright side is that it has begun to surface, in the ways that we see now:
I believe that if you are reading this, and any or some of these things spoke to you, chances are that you are one of the mamas/women who are here at this time to bring forth the changes that are happening…and I am here to say that you are not alone, and I am here to help you, with the service that was called into me: the Ancestral/Maternal Lineage Soul Readings. Although it they didn't start this way, starting online with the intention of connecting with someone's mama on the other side, but they soon turned into more...
...and as I stated, these readings were brought just in time. A time when the world is experiencing much upheaval...and I am ready to answer my calling to bring it all together. These readings bring so much clarity because they get the the core of the problems that you are facing individually - problems caused by the mother wound:
and by a system that began way before you got here. They get to the core of the problems cause within the maternal family line. During each call the energies that are present within the maternal line and your ancestry become present and they come up to heal and help you move forward. The women who have come before step in and shed light on the hurts that have happened and were passed down the generations. They pinpoint where the pain began, and give a full understanding of why you are feeling blocked in your everyday, within yourself, your child or your life - within your lienage. They reconnect you to the past mothers, grandmothers, aunts etc. in your maternal line, those who have come before and have contributed to the energies that are present now. The pain that was passed down from one generation to the other - as well as the strength. The pain that you don’t want to pass onto your children and want to rid from your life, and they offer you the gift of knowing with absolute clarity what it is that you are here to do - and how you’re healing for them, your child, and yourself right now.
Because the truth is that we all experience life according to what our inner world is telling us. We get stuck in patterns and loops of thought, behavior and emotions that drive our lives without us being aware - and this reading came at the right time for us all. Because it is here to help you cut to the chase and get right into what’s happening and what you’re creating, so that you can begin to heal the mother wound caused by the hurt of patriarchy and the inability for the matriarchs to live in their power. This reading gets into the present energies and shows you a mirror into what you’ve been living with, what was passed down to you, how it has affected your life and the changes that you can make to live free from the chains of the hurt caused as a result of not knowing - it also connects the dots with your children and helps you understand what you’re working through with them and how they help you in healing the hurt.
Many of us walk around unaware of the things that we are holding onto or the way that these hurts are affecting us deeply. Some of us feel the need to fight for something, are angry, deeply sad, or depressed, and don’t know why. It’s hard to understand what that the origins of these feelings are, as a result of trauma and hurt that has been caused by generational stories carried down, and things that have been visited onto us, but the truth is that we no longer have to be burdened by these energies. We can use the energies of time that is available now and being to understand and heal. We can use these energies to transform our understanding and perceptions, so that we don’t have to pass these down to our children…we can begin to heal.
I feel blessed to have been given the ability to help mothers and women in this way - I understand that the time for us and for our healing is here, and am continually in awe over the ability for spirit to always bring into my life the necessary things needed for me to keep moving into a space to keep helping more mamas and women begin to heal and move forward…and although this is just the beginning, what a powerful begging it is…to learn more about these specific readings, please contact me here.
We had a newborn and a three-year-old. My husband (MJ) was in a haze of pain from regular migraines, I in one of fatigue. We were both cranky.
I sat in front of my computer 10–16 hours every day, trying to work but spending hours as a social-media zombie. Probably once a day, I heard MJ yelling at the kids, and the kids crying. I would help calm the situation, then go back to slogging through my work, mentally walking through cold molasses.
Finally, sometime after midnight, I would climb into bed with a happy sigh and a huge grin at the thought of an hour or two of sleep before the baby woke to nurse or our daughter woke screaming.
She would shriek like someone was murdering her.
Exhausted, panicked, I frantically tried to quiet her so she wouldn’t wake everyone else. When she was finally calm and I tried to go back to sleep, she scream like a banshee again. Back to her room I went, quietly imploring her to go back to sleep.
Twenty minutes later, more screaming. I would again rush to her room, my voice rising as I begged, pleaded, “I have to sleep. I need sleep. Please, please… please, for the love of … why won’t you sleep?!”
Then I would hear myself yelling, “You are going to wake everyone else up. It is nighttime. It is time for sleep. People are trying to sleep!”
I felt ashamed at my loss of control. Something needed to change, but what? And how?
Our Life Savers
Then I discovered Hal Elrod’s book The Miracle Morning. I liked the idea of getting a better handle on my life by using the Life SAVERS (silence, affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, scribing)—but how in the world could I get up an hour before my kids to do this?! It was all I could do to stumble out of bed when they woke me in the mornings.
I was desperate, though, so I gave it a shot. It worked … sort of.
I started daily self-care again, brushing my teeth, flossing, exercising … even showering! (When did I stop doing these things? I wondered.)
But I felt good enough—almost human again—that I kept going.
Even from his haze of pain and sleepiness, MJ noticed the change in me, so he started doing the Life SAVERS too.
Our days were so much better when we did the SAVERS before the kids woke up, but we still had to claw ourselves out of bed each morning, sometimes before the kids. But I often fell asleep in my silence. And affirmations. And visualization. And reading.
We were seeing enough improvements to stay determined, though, so we muddled through.
Then MJ discovered Shawn Stevenson’s book Sleep Smarter. We were already doing most things Stevenson suggested, but implementing those last few things made a tremendous difference. Suddenly, with sleep in order, everything started falling into place.
A Whole New Family
MJ’s migraines dropped from affecting him every day to only once or twice a month. He went from being anxious about almost everything to calm, even cheerful. Our interpersonal interactions are more considerate, more thoughtful. We treat everyone—including ourselves—with more respect.
We worry less and are present, engaged with our lives, our children, and each other. We accomplish much more every day. We keep our tempers. We rarely yell. Our house is much more peaceful.
Through trial and error, we have 5 essentials that we must to do daily to live this new, better life:
1. Shut off electronics at least 1 1/2 hour before the household’s earliest bedtime--and keep them out of sleeping spaces.
2. Use topical magnesium spray. (Ingested magnesium isn’t nearly as efficacious.) The easiest way to do this is with an epsom-salt soak. MJ, our daughter, and I soak our feet each evening as part of our electronics-free time. (MJ needs more magnesium to keep his headaches down, so he also uses a magnesium spray, which can be purchased or made at home.)
3. Increased physical activity. (Do any activity that you enjoy, but when movement is aligned with breathing, as in yoga or Tai Chi, it can double as silence/meditation.)
4. Silence/meditation. (This brings your attention to the present moment, to observe from a place of detachment. After steady practice, you find a state of calm that you can more easily call to mind when disturbances and agitation arise during the day.)
5. Education/personal development. (Focus on anything you like … anything. The point is to make constant incremental improvement in some aspect of your life. Eventually, you start thinking in whole new ways and getting more creative in everyday problem solving.)
When we do numbers 1 and 2, we fall asleep faster and have better-quality sleep. Then it’s easier to get up when the alarm goes off, which makes numbers 3–5 even easier to do.
Thanks to implementing these strategies, something has shifted in us.
We are hopeful and have found new purpose. We examine everything in our lives, improving what works and eliminating what doesn’t. We are more fully present for everyone. We are kinder, gentler, more understanding. We are better models for our children, who also behave better, sleep better, and are more cheerful.
It all started with the Miracle Morning and sleeping smarter.
- Stephanie R.S. Stringham
You read the title of this blog post and probably wondered what the heck is wrong with this woman. How can I find joy in frustrating moments? I'm a mom, and there is so much to do, where is the joy in my to do list?
Well, I'm here to tell you that there is plenty of joy to be found. The key lever in discovering this joy is in how you look at the situation. I know it is hard. With all the demands on our plates as moms, it is a challenge to remember to slow down and be joyful. The beautiful thing is we have a choice in everything we do and with that choice comes the opportunity to find joy.
For example, your children make a mess in the living room after you have cleaned up. When my kids make these kinds of choices, it infuriates me. I mean, they just saw me cleaning up and here they go creating a mess. It is frustrating and hard to get past, but at that moment I have a choice to make. I can scream at them for what they just did, or I can take a few breaths to calm down and look for some joy at the moment. When I give the situation a fresh look, I see my children playing creatively, safely and happily. I realize I can use this moment to teach them how to clean up their mess and how to help mommy when she is cleaning.
It doesn't happen seamlessly every time. There are times when I blow up and just let my rage take over. However, I keep those moments to a minimum.
I want my children to have happy memories of their time with me. Life does happen, so all of our times together won't be happy ones, but I can make a choice to find happiness more often than not.
Finding your Joy in Frustrating Moments
1. Release expectations that everything must be perfect.
Just because you cleaned the house doesn't mean it has to be spic and span. Know that there is beauty in the imperfections, and by releasing your expectations, you are allowing more joy to come your way.
2. Take a deep breath before making a choice.
When you feel your body tensing and the frustration boiling, take a deep breath. Let the breath bring relaxation into your body. Wait until that breath is released before making choices.
3. Look for moments of joy.
Purposefully look for the moments of happiness. Make an effort to look for the laughter and the happiness at the moment.
You have a choice whether to be joyful or to be frustrated. What choice will you make?
- Elly Blanco
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I long time ago, I would've said that all a mother has to do is follow her heart. But today, I find that this is no longer true for me. Now. Before you get angry let me explain.
I do believe that we mamas have to listen to our hearts, because that is where our feelings are, it is where we tap into what's going on, and the emotions that are present at any moment. But the problem is that it's not enough, because our hearts can put in in places where we are subjecting ourselves or our children to things or situations that are not the best for us. We are by nature sensitive and emotional creatures - add our children to that and forget it, we will be lost in our emotions for way too long.
The purpose of our hearts is to connect us with our emotions - the problem however comes when we listen to our emotions to the point that logic or reason also go out of the window. Our emotions are for us to feel, and not to think with. This is the purpose of them. Feeling. Not thinking. This is why, the hardest thing to do is to think clearly when we are emotional: sad, angry, happy. We become lost in our emotions and then react - they cloud our judgments. They bring automatic reactions: or reactions that come from a place deep within, that we don't fully understand.
For instance, just recently, my three year old went through a period in which he wanted to do nothing more than watch videos on mine or daddy's phone. In the beginning it was not a big deal, and we let him do it for a while...then we began to realize that this was becoming all that he wanted to do...for a short while, we allowed because he was upset and sad, and so we thought 'alright not a big deal. It's for a short amount of time, and he's ok. He's not bothering anyone, it's only a few videos.' Then it became more and more. Now, at first my heart was sad, because I didn't want to see him sad. I didn't want my little guy to cry and become upset. My heart hurt and I wanted to make him better...but my logic knew that there was something wrong with this. He was becoming obsessed with it. He was opting out of play with his siblings, curios exploration, and things that are normal for a three year old, because he was looking forward to the moment when he could watch videos on the phones. My heart was sad over the situation, but my gut told me that this was not right, and we began to take the phone away and set limits with the time. Sure he became upset, but I took it as a cue to let him feel his feelings in their entirety...so what is one to follow when the heart isn't fully the right answer? I'll tell you. Your instincts.
As women, and mothers we have great instincts. We know in our guts and can feel when something is not working out instinctively (as what was happening with my three year old). We often become aware of when things need changes or need to be adjusted by the way that it feels to us. Listening to our instincts, our spirits and souls, do a much better job at helping us to understand what is right for our children and families.
Our hearts are our guides. They show us what emotions are in front of us. It provides us with a glimpse into the energies that are present - but it can be deceiving when we are still not fully aware how to separate our emotions from our reactions. However, our instincts/the small little voice that is within, the one that always had the answers when you needed it, doesn't misguide you, because that voice is a part of your pure self. It is in contact with the divine. It knows the truth as soon as it comes across it...and this is where the answers come from. From that silent place when all of the emotions from the heart have been processed.
So the next time you're wrestling with something, listen to what your heart is feeling, and then tap into your instincts - to the divine flow that knows the answer, and combine the two, to help you create magic...
...as far as my three year old, he still watches videos, from time to time, but the limits that have been set, have created a much more balanced little dude, who's day is full of more natural play and normal three year old curiosity.
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